J.Lo or J.Aff? Why do you give your husband’s title?




The two married on July 16, in a last-minute ceremony in Las Vegas, with few people as witnesses.

The two married on July 16, in a last-minute ceremony in Las Vegas, with few individuals as witnesses.

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The fact went just a little unnoticed (or made much less noise than anticipated) on the time the information appeared that the actress and singer Jennifer Lopez had mentioned sure to the star Ben Affleck.

The two married on July 16, in a last-minute ceremony in Las Vegas, with few individuals as witnesses. Announcing the marriage, by means of a publication (On the JLo) despatched to the followers of the subscription, Jennifer Lopez not solely revealed the small print of the ceremony of her goals, however unfold i additionally one thing new on the finish of the message. She mentioned goodbye with the next textual content: “Love is an efficient factor, possibly the most effective factor of all, and it is price ready for”. He concluded: “Love, Jennifer Lynn Affleck.”

This Tuesday (02/08), within the picture of the couple’s marriage certificates, which was circulated all over the world, got here the affirmation. After the marriage, J.Lo formally turned Mrs. Affleck. It was an previous need, as revealed in an interview made 20 years in the past, on the time of the primary contact with the actor. But then the connection fell aside, the 2 married different individuals and had kids. They went to satisfy once more in the midst of a pandemic, single once more.

But what makes a girl like her, who has labored laborious to determine herself as a proficient artist, capable of sing, dance and interpret (possibly even nominated for an Oscar ), who tasks the picture of a robust girl, needs to give up. your personal title? Is it a declaration of affection or an act of submission, reproducing previous ideas that the girl, as soon as married, belongs to the person?

It is unbelievable, however till 2002, there was nonetheless a regulation in Brazil, which established that the person might cancel the wedding and return the girl to the household, if he discovered that she was not a virgin. This was within the Civil Code of 1916 and it handled married girls as incapable creatures. Women couldn’t open a checking account, obtain an inheritance or work outdoors of their husband’s consent, necessities that solely fell within the Nineteen Sixties.

Until March this 12 months, Congress was debating the necessity for a husband’s consent for a married girl prepared to have a tubal ligation. And as if that weren’t sufficient, till lately, some well being plans required a partner’s consent to insert an IUD (Intra Uterine Device) of their companions, an unlawful observe, however one which reveals how patriarchy’s concepts are there to pull. us

Since the brand new Civil Code got here into power in 2002, women and men have been capable of undertake their companion’s surname. But what number of males in your circle of pals have accomplished that? I feel that Ben Affleck, as in love as he’s, has not thought-about being Ben Lopez.

With the top of the duty that got here from the brand new Code, an increasing number of Brazilian girls present that they don’t seem to be enthusiastic about altering their title after they get married. According to a examine by Arpen-SP, an affiliation linked to notaries, within the final 20 years, the variety of girls who adopted the surname of their companions fell by 25% within the state of São Paulo.

Everything reveals that the extra mature a girl is, the extra she has a consolidated skilled profession, the extra she is in her personal nostril, the much less she is thinking about having the ability carried her companion’s surname. Today, girls marry later than within the final century. This often is the key to understanding the autumn.

It is comprehensible that within the case of girls who aren’t reunited with their households of origin, whose lives have been marked by abusive circumstances, altering their title could be a manner of left to discover a new story.

J.Lo revealed within the documentary Halftime (Netflix, 2020) that her mom was a really troublesome particular person. The relationship between the 2 was by no means straightforward, however she understood the explanations that made the matriarch elevate her kids in a tough manner. It was a matter of survival. Jennifer is the daughter of Puerto Ricans, born and raised within the Bronx, a borough of New York City.

Her roots appear to be a supply of delight for her. At the Superbowl halftime present, in 2020, wherein he shared the stage with the Colombian Shakira, JLo made a degree of showing on stage with some type of cloak that, on one aspect, the flag of the United States. But when he opened his arms, on the within, you can see the flag of Puerto Rico. Displaying the flag was additionally a criticism of the Trump administration, which has separated greater than 500 kids from their undocumented immigrant mother and father and positioned them in a cage of kinds in detention facilities.

The title we supply is a part of who we’re, the place we got here from, our id. But evidently most ladies all through the West are nonetheless prepared to give it up for his or her husband’s title. As if, with this act, the ladies create a bond of union for all times.

To have a fortunately ever after is the pop star’s want at this level in her life, maybe impressed by the various romances, fairy tales about trendy life that she has starred in screens. Irresistible Passion (1998), The Wedding of My Dreams (2001), Encontro de Amor (2002), Casa Comigo (2022), in all these major movies J.Lo’s character meets the person of her life and their happiness frozen for eternity. Off display screen, she appears to be searching for the identical end result.

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